Add Insult to Injury
My eldest daughter is entering a fantastic time in her life!
She has recently become engaged and is in the midst of planning for the big
event …. Her wedding day!
This man did not intend to cause harm but the microaggression
in this instance was based on a physical appearance. The microinvalidation
committed in this scenario, implied that brides are slim; big girls do not get
proposed to because they do not fit the image of the blushing bride. My daughter is not at all sensitive about her weight she is dealing with her situation to get it down before the wedding date. It was just what was implied by this man. He did indeed lose a potental client that day!
We must be cognizant of the stereotypes of people and
cultures we may have in our minds. We cannot make assumptions by the way a
person looks that they are or will behave in a certain way. The assignment of
observations for microaggression has forever put me on alert to watch my
comments when speaking to others also to even let others know of the hurts and
mindless insults we can inflict towards people due to our own biases we are unaware of.



